Understanding Human Psychology

Coaching often mirrors back the truths we hide from ourselves. In one session, a client struggled with setting boundaries. As I guided her through some reflections, I felt a strange discomfort rise in me. It hit me later: I wasn’t walking the talk. I was overcommitting. Afraid to say no. Her struggle was my own. That day, I journaled. I set my own boundaries. Coaching her helped me coach myself. That’s the quiet magic of this work—it transforms both people in the conversation. Do you believe helping others helps you grow too? When did that happen for you? Share in the comments. If you're on your own self-awareness journey, these books are great companions. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coaching, this book teaches how to empower clients by balancing ...

  "I don't need a coach. I need someone who gets it." That was how the session started. I froze. My instinct was to prove myself, show her I did get it. But instead, I asked, "Tell me what 'getting it' looks like for you." She opened up. Slowly, she shared stories laced with frustration, disappointment, and hope. As she spoke, I realized coaching isn’t about having all the answers. It's about holding the questions gently and listening hard. That client changed me. She made me rethink what it means to 'get it'. To stop trying to fix and start being fully present. That’s when the real work begins. When was the last time someone truly 'got you'? Share your expereinces in the comments Want to explore deep listening and presence? Here are some books that helped me. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟 ...

  It all began with one person asking, “What can I do to increase my visibility in the organisation and get promoted?” Then another spoke to me about the challenging team dynamics he was facing. One by one, different voices shared their concerns — shifting topics, new stories, same space. And I remained. Holding space. Listening with presence. Gently nudging them to think for themselves. This was back in 2021 — the year I first discovered coaching. Eager to deepen my understanding of human behaviour, I also began studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Fast forward to 2024, shortly after completing my PhD, the ever-curious learner in me whispered, “It’s time to start your ICF credentialing journey.” I felt a strong pull to not just practice coaching, but truly understand the process, the structure, and the deeper essence of it. Being a coach within my organisation gave me a rich space to apply what I was learning. I chose Erickson - Xmonks for my ACC journey — and what a choice it w...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.   Recently, in my readings, I came across a thought that struck me deeply:   Most human problems, and even unfulfilled aspirations, exist because we simply wait. We wait endlessly — for the right time, the right mood, the perfect plan, the perfect clarity.   Sometimes it’s procrastination.   Sometimes it’s fear of the unknown.   Sometimes it’s sheer lethargy or a sense of boredom.   Sometimes it’s confusion about where to even begin.   And without realizing it, life passes in the waiting. If only we could move past these invisible barriers and act, most of our goals would be within reach.   Sounds simple, doesn’t it?   But if it were, everyone would already be living the life they dream of. Taking action is easier said than done because action demands courage.   Courage to move d...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I recently came across a line in 'The Almanack of Naval Ravikant' that stayed with me:   Wisdom is not about words or writing. Wisdom is about actions and behavior. If it were just about words, we would all be wise.   We read quotes, books, articles — we are surrounded by knowledge.   But true wisdom is not what you can repeat.   It’s what you embody.   It’s visible in how you live your life when no one is watching. This made me pause.   How often do we confuse knowing something with living it?   It’s easy to talk about patience, but can we stay calm when things don’t go our way?   It’s easy to talk about kindness, but do we practice it when someone is rude to us?   It’s easy to talk about balance, but do we truly create space for it in our day? Wisdom, I realized, is silent. ...