Understanding Human Psychology

I was witnessing a group coaching session. Lots of surface-level chatter. Until the coach asked, "What are you pretending not to know?" Silence. Someone shifted. Another crossed their arms. Then one brave voice said, "That I hate my job but feel too guilty to leave." Boom. Vulnerability unlocked the room. Others followed. Stories poured out. Real talk began. That one question cracked open a safe space. It reminded me: the right question doesn’t provide an answer. It opens a door. What’s a question that changed you? I challenge you to think of a reflective question which will help change the readers' perspective. Write it in the comments. If you’re looking for powerful coaching questions, you’ll love these reads. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A go...

  There was a time I almost said no to the journey of becoming a coach. I was drowning in self-doubt—that annoying voice in your head that whispers, "Who are you to help someone else?" I remember standing outside the room where my first coach training session was about to begin. My hand hovered over the doorknob. I almost turned back. "You don't belong here," the voice insisted. Just then, someone behind me said, "You coming in? You look like you belong here." That sentence shifted something. I walked in. That day didn't erase my doubts, but it planted a new thought: Maybe I do belong . And with every session, every stumble, every "aha" moment since, I’ve learned this: the only thing standing between you and your future self is often just one step forward. Poll: What stopped you from pursuing something you truly wanted? a) Your inner critic b) External circumstances c) Past experiences d) All of the above I've also li...

  It’s a Double Century! Yes, this is my 200th blog. It feels surreal to even type that. It all began during the uncertain days of the COVID lockdown. When the world outside shut down, and the world inside felt equally unsettled. Work was reduced to Zoom calls, my PhD had hit pause indefinitely, and my 8-month-old daughter hadn't yet seen a garden or sunshine. Every day was filled with anxious news updates and stories of people holding on to life. In the midst of it all, I turned to writing. I searched YouTube to learn how to build a blog page and just… started. Since then, there's been no looking back. Sharing my thoughts has been healing, humbling, and joyful. Though friends and family appreciated my words, I often wondered— is someone else reading this on the other side of the world? Today, I look at my blog’s stats and smile—page views from different countries, posts that resonated. I feel deeply proud and grateful. Thank you, dear readers, for being part of this jour...

I’ve been asked, "Why do you still coach? Isn’t it hard holding space for others all the time?" Yes, it is. But it’s also the most fulfilling thing I do. I coach because of the light in someone’s eyes when they reconnect with their purpose. Because someone says, "No one's ever asked me that before." Because transformation isn’t a big bang. It’s a whisper that grows. I coach because every story shared is sacred. And I still believe in the magic of human change. What keeps you committed to your path?  a) The idea that it changes / impacts lives b) The recognition it brings  c) The freedom of expression/thought To all the coaches, leaders, and lifelong learners—here’s a curated list of books that keep me inspired. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coachi...

  It wasn’t a coaching session. We were just two friends catching up. She was venting about work, unsure whether to quit. I listened, then asked: "What would staying cost you emotionally?" Her eyes welled up. "Everything," she whispered. That question wasn’t planned. It came from being fully present. We talked for another hour. She didn’t quit right away, but she made changes. Big ones. Sometimes, coaching happens outside the frame of a session. It slips into coffee chats, dinner tables, and quiet walks. It's about presence, not permission. Where have you accidentally coached someone? Comment and share. For anyone who believes conversations can change lives, these books are for you. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coaching, this bo...

Coaching often mirrors back the truths we hide from ourselves. In one session, a client struggled with setting boundaries. As I guided her through some reflections, I felt a strange discomfort rise in me. It hit me later: I wasn’t walking the talk. I was overcommitting. Afraid to say no. Her struggle was my own. That day, I journaled. I set my own boundaries. Coaching her helped me coach myself. That’s the quiet magic of this work—it transforms both people in the conversation. Do you believe helping others helps you grow too? When did that happen for you? Share in the comments. If you're on your own self-awareness journey, these books are great companions. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coaching, this book teaches how to empower clients by balancing ...

  "I don't need a coach. I need someone who gets it." That was how the session started. I froze. My instinct was to prove myself, show her I did get it. But instead, I asked, "Tell me what 'getting it' looks like for you." She opened up. Slowly, she shared stories laced with frustration, disappointment, and hope. As she spoke, I realized coaching isn’t about having all the answers. It's about holding the questions gently and listening hard. That client changed me. She made me rethink what it means to 'get it'. To stop trying to fix and start being fully present. That’s when the real work begins. When was the last time someone truly 'got you'? Share your expereinces in the comments Want to explore deep listening and presence? Here are some books that helped me. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟 ...