Understanding Human Psychology

  They say we must stop sacrificing ourselves for others. Today’s youth seem to understand this well and often practice it effectively in their personal lives, especially with family. They confidently share their likes and dislikes, creating space for themselves. But at workplaces, it’s a different story. Many new joiners or early-career professionals struggle to set boundaries. Overwork is often glorified, sold as the fast track to success. While it might lead to quick promotions, the cost becomes clear over time—burnout. Once the steam runs out, they find themselves yearning for balance, for time to recharge, and for meaningful connections with family and friends. By the time they recognize this, setting boundaries feels daunting. How do you redefine expectations with colleagues or seniors who are accustomed to your over-availability? The process may feel awkward at first, but it’s essential to protect your well-being and sustain long-term success. 3 Practical Tips to Set H...

  That’s so me at the end of the day. That is how the energy is. That is how any pending task feels. Its okay. I sense it’s the same for others. But does that mean that the day has not been full of meaning? Oh no. I love what I do. It tires me for good. And when I get tired, that means I have worked hard man! I’ve worked very hard to make my goals see the light of the day. Physically tired, but mentally proud is how I feel. Sleeping with that mindset brings me new hope to wake up and show up the next day too. So to all the folks who are low today, feel drained off their energy, feel like it’s a burden to do that one more, last task of the day. Its okay. It means you have done what should be done and it has tired you. It means that your mental and physical energies have been occupied productively. It means that you have done your bit in the waking hours of your day. You don’t deserve to beat yourself. You deserve to be proud.

  I’d be honest in stating I’m struggling. In what? In sorting the endless tasks, I have put up for myself in life, and the journey I have set out to have. I have my family, my work, my learning, my routine tasks and myself as an individual to attend to. I often get to hear from my coachee’s during a coaching conversation the similar struggle. And its but natural to feel overwhelmed. Its but natural to not feel at peace and calm when you have multiple things to attend to. A usual coaching conversation also states that at such times, they procrastinate, that is postponing tasks till the need to do it becomes dire. Isn’t that too so obvious. I mean when we are overwhelmed, we generally don’t know where to begin from. So just wait for the right time, right setting, right people to be with you, right support mechanism, right frame of mind. Just the ‘right’ of everything. Who knows when ‘right’ will come. But hope is there that it will. But then there is a catch, the moment which is ‘...

  Anxiety often feels like a vague cloud, hard to pinpoint but impossible to ignore. To work through it, the first step is identifying and naming the emotions hiding within it. Emotions are like signals—each one carries a message. Is the anxiety rooted in fear of failure, uncertainty, or the weight of unmet expectations? By pausing and asking, “What exactly am I feeling?” and describing it—tightness in the chest, a racing mind—you gain clarity. Naming emotions transforms them from overwhelming forces to manageable experiences, empowering you to address their cause and regain control over your inner world. True empowerment comes not from avoiding discomfort but from embracing its lessons.   Here’s a starting point with coaching questions around emotional exploration and emotional intelligence for growth. As an example I have called out a dialogue which would be possibly with anxiety as a emotion. A dialogue to explore this would look like: What emotion are you f...

  IiI  I   In my coaching practice, I encourage clients to explore their emotions with curiosity rather than judgment. When a challenging project triggers stress, we reflect on the root cause—is it fear of failure? Lack of clarity?—and what actions can transform that stress into constructive momentum.   Recognizing that emotions are guideposts builds emotional intelligence and resilience. The next time you feel discomfort, pause and ask yourself: What message does this emotion carry? When we learn to listen, even our hardest emotions become allies on the path to growth.   The Power of Recognizing Discomfort and being vulnerable in coaching sessions can create transformational shifts. Let me dive into this hypothetical example. James, a mid-level manager in a fast-paced tech company, felt increasingly frustrated with his team’s performance. Weekly meetings left him drained, and he was snapping at colleagues. In our coaching session, I asked, “What’s the domin...

 Have you ever felt a pang of discomfort and wished it away, only to later realize that the very feeling was your greatest teacher? In coaching, we often talk about resilience, self-awareness, and emotional agility, but the first step is learning to embrace every emotion, including those that feel unpleasant.  The truth is: Not every emotion that feels bad is bad.   I was attending a coaching demonstration, during which I was asked to share my observations on what went well and what could be improved. The session was taken by an MCC coach where contracting and agreement was done wonderfully.   For the purpose of the demo, we stopped the session there. Yet by the end of the session, on being asked if I could do something differently what would that be, I ruminated over this. The client had a fair idea about her goal and the deep dive was done by the coach’s questions. However, the underlying emotions behind the transition which the client was experiencing, the anx...