Understanding Human Psychology

I’ve been asked, "Why do you still coach? Isn’t it hard holding space for others all the time?" Yes, it is. But it’s also the most fulfilling thing I do. I coach because of the light in someone’s eyes when they reconnect with their purpose. Because someone says, "No one's ever asked me that before." Because transformation isn’t a big bang. It’s a whisper that grows. I coach because every story shared is sacred. And I still believe in the magic of human change. What keeps you committed to your path?  a) The idea that it changes / impacts lives b) The recognition it brings  c) The freedom of expression/thought To all the coaches, leaders, and lifelong learners—here’s a curated list of books that keep me inspired. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coachi...

  It wasn’t a coaching session. We were just two friends catching up. She was venting about work, unsure whether to quit. I listened, then asked: "What would staying cost you emotionally?" Her eyes welled up. "Everything," she whispered. That question wasn’t planned. It came from being fully present. We talked for another hour. She didn’t quit right away, but she made changes. Big ones. Sometimes, coaching happens outside the frame of a session. It slips into coffee chats, dinner tables, and quiet walks. It's about presence, not permission. Where have you accidentally coached someone? Comment and share. For anyone who believes conversations can change lives, these books are for you. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coaching, this bo...

Coaching often mirrors back the truths we hide from ourselves. In one session, a client struggled with setting boundaries. As I guided her through some reflections, I felt a strange discomfort rise in me. It hit me later: I wasn’t walking the talk. I was overcommitting. Afraid to say no. Her struggle was my own. That day, I journaled. I set my own boundaries. Coaching her helped me coach myself. That’s the quiet magic of this work—it transforms both people in the conversation. Do you believe helping others helps you grow too? When did that happen for you? Share in the comments. If you're on your own self-awareness journey, these books are great companions. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟  1. "Co-Active Coaching" by Henry Kimsey-House et al. A gold standard in coaching, this book teaches how to empower clients by balancing ...

  "I don't need a coach. I need someone who gets it." That was how the session started. I froze. My instinct was to prove myself, show her I did get it. But instead, I asked, "Tell me what 'getting it' looks like for you." She opened up. Slowly, she shared stories laced with frustration, disappointment, and hope. As she spoke, I realized coaching isn’t about having all the answers. It's about holding the questions gently and listening hard. That client changed me. She made me rethink what it means to 'get it'. To stop trying to fix and start being fully present. That’s when the real work begins. When was the last time someone truly 'got you'? Share your expereinces in the comments Want to explore deep listening and presence? Here are some books that helped me. Check them out here. This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Go to Books for Coaching 🌟 ...

  It all began with one person asking, “What can I do to increase my visibility in the organisation and get promoted?” Then another spoke to me about the challenging team dynamics he was facing. One by one, different voices shared their concerns — shifting topics, new stories, same space. And I remained. Holding space. Listening with presence. Gently nudging them to think for themselves. This was back in 2021 — the year I first discovered coaching. Eager to deepen my understanding of human behaviour, I also began studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Fast forward to 2024, shortly after completing my PhD, the ever-curious learner in me whispered, “It’s time to start your ICF credentialing journey.” I felt a strong pull to not just practice coaching, but truly understand the process, the structure, and the deeper essence of it. Being a coach within my organisation gave me a rich space to apply what I was learning. I chose Erickson - Xmonks for my ACC journey — and what a choice it w...