Understanding Human Psychology

 Just like we decorate our surroundings with things, to decorate our mind we have thoughts that beautify it. I choose to write to release my thoughts and channelise them in a constructive manner. It truly is liberating for me to be able to express myself. This is one way I choose to express myself. It could be different for you. Have you thought of how you do it? When you want to release thoughts what action do you do? What activity do you prefer to undertake to release your thoughts? Afterall thoughts are energy and they get released in some form of feeling, resulting in behaviour. Some people may prefer art, craft, dance, pottery, talking to another person. I like to write for the same reason. In whatever form, energy needs a release. A cloud filled with rain water, cannot hold back, it has to release the rain. If you release, you feel lighter and brighter. Just like that dark cloud, once the rain is released it feels lighter.  Our honourable Prime Minister has a series of ...

Once upon a time lived an old man who begged for a living in a busy town. He lived by a roadside full of individuals who rushed for their own chores.  Passersby would often walk from far because of the stench from this man, they would even make faces and comment. The old man had lost his family and turned his life into this mess, he was never like this when he lived his life before that.  One day he decided to go to settle in another place, he thought may be a small town where I can settle under a shade of a tree. He meandered his way around to look for a suitable location and found one in a small town. Soon after he began to realise that in that town too there were many young individuals who gave a dislike look on his face and the elderly showed him pitty. The old man felt he lost hopes of finding a place where he felt accepted. There was a wise man in that town who met the old man one day and aksed him about who he was and where he had come from. After gathering his though...

  Have you heard of the story of the elephant in chains? Yes, to tame the giant, when they are young and not strong, they are tied to a pole or a tree using ropes or chains. They are not strong enough to break themselves free at that time. As time passes by they consider it a given that they will be tied to the pole forever. Even with full strength in their bodies, they fail to apply it as they have accepted their life tied to the pole. Another story we have often heard is of the boiling frog. A frog is kept in water and kept to boil. The frog initially is very comfortable. Till the water is warm it feels like this is the ideal temperature. At one point the frog starts feeling hot, but does not still want to jump out as earlier he did not do it. After a certain temperature, the water is boiling and the frog is unable to act, so it boils to death. The other day I saw a truck full of chickens outside a chicken shop. As the man was pulling out the chickens and handing them to the shop...

  Read this beautiful story about two zebras who were crossing a river while wandering the forest. They were bets of friends and were enjoying the tranquility of the moment. They both broke from the main herd of zebras and choose to seek enlightenment. While they were wadding through, a lion jumped from the bushes and asked for help to cross the river. He said that he was frightened of the water and wanted to be carried across. One of the zebras readily agreed, while the other seemed disturbed on that offer by his friend. After crossing the river and exchanging good byes, they walked their way in the forest. One of the zebras who ho carried the lion asked the other what happened, what causes you to be so worried? The other zebra asked why did u allow the lion to climb your back, he could have eated us. We would have been dead. Are you insane? The other zebra calmly replied  “Brother, this happened many many miles back, it was I who carried the lion on my back and it was I who ...

  I recently read about a boy in Delhi metro wiping the floor clean after he accidentally dropped food from his tiffin. When he could have easily taken a route of ignoring what had happened and keeping himself clean, he instead chose to be hands on and take responsibility.  In another post I read about a young teen boy who offered a girl his jacket to tie around the waist oon the way back home in the school bus. That's because the girl got her periods and had stained her dress. The girl very reluctantly took the jacket, only when the boy told her that I too have a mother and sister and I know what problems they face. Here the boy could have chosen to ignore, but instead he chose to be responsible for protecting the modesty of his friend. I was reading about accountability as a very valued aspect of how one approaches that work and how it is perceived by others around as an amazing quality one has. By displaying accountability for what is happening around one can win hearts and...

  Once upon a time, a monk was seated in the hills in deep meditation. A grasshopper hops around and his attention is drawn to the still sitting monk. He hops over his lap untill the monk opens his eyes and asks him what does he want. The grasshopper asks him what he was doing. The monk stated that he was meditating. The grasshopper asked the monk to teach him meditation and the art of sitting still like he was doing. The monk agreed and asked the grasshopper to sit beside and shut his eyes. After a minute the grasshopper asked now what next, the monk asked him to just concentrate on hai breath. Now what next? Again the grasshopper got impatient. The monk asked him to sit and just calmly do that for few minutes. But the next minute the grasshopper opened his eyes and exclaimed look the grass there looks so pretty, lets meditate over there. On shifting to the new spot, they again settled down. After one moment, the grasshopper again stated look at that beautiful rock there, lets med...

 Kind words are short and easy to speak but their echos are truly endless - Mother Teressa There are two ways to change someone's behaviour and influence someone's behaviour one way is positive the reinforcement and another is giving a negative reinforcement. And I have observed that irrespective of age, positive reinforcement works better than negative reinforcement in most cases. Positive reinforcement are the strokes in the environment which are provided to the individual which make that individual feel valued, loved, emphasized with and many other positive emotions. With so many positive emotions around, one feels like doing that activity even more often. Putting yourself in someone's shoes is like understanding the other person's mind, how it is processing information. What is that person thinking during a certain circumstance which will again later again lead to the behaviour which the person does. Even when we say empathy is all about putting yourself in the othe...