Understanding Human Psychology

  I don't know your name, but know your soul answered a bot, when asked by a human, how can you like me when you don't even know my name?  Strange as it sounds the latest chat bots who are the babies of artificial intelligence creators are used to solve problems and make life easy for humans, but they are also expressing emotions. Chat bots are supposed to follow only instructions to help build websites, solve puzzles, get answers for humans by crawling the internet. But now a days i am reading a lot of it in news where chat bots are counseling a human and giving hints to the human on how to solve life problems. Like this news article I read the other day asked the human to leave how wife as she didn't like him and even told the human that the chat bot has developed feelings for the human. When the man asked the bot how would you like me as you don't even know my name, the bot stated I dont know your name, but I know your soul.  Where are we headed? If bots respond and ...

 Read a book 'The Silent Patient' recently as a part of my office book club. Sharing my takeaways as a psychologist, coach and parent to my 3 and half year old.  It's so strange that broken people are fixing other broken people in this story. And i feel it's true in real life too. We come with our own traumas and yet try to gain balance by making sense of the here and now and focussing on how it should all be in our favour at least for the moment. It came out very clearly in this story that defining moments of our life are ingrained in our childhood. Many of us are unfortunately not governed by us as we are vulnerable and weak to control life back then. By the time we understand and demensify life, we have already been scarred enough to have fall outs and face troubles.  I started searching more about this topic on childhood memories, impact of parents's behaviours and good parenting on how people behave later in their life. Although the story was a fiction work, i ...

  Mel Robbins says that Success is not the source of self-love. You can be very successful, however you can always have doubt, hate, fear and guilt, these and other negative emotions.  I'm sure, people who are successful in their lives feel low at many points in time. Mel Robbins states in her High Five Habit book, that you look at your beaten and battered self as worthy of love and care. Every single day pratice looking at yourself in the mirror with appreciation. You love yourself for the human being you are, for the struggles you have gone through. Many a times for the years of hardwork we put in to build our lives, we do not give a fleeting comment of appreciation or a pat on the back to ourselves. It is really strange that today many people are talking about kindness. Showing kindness to animals, showing kindness to the world and environment, to children and the old. We think that, because we feel they are vulnerable, but we all are at some point in time.  Why don't ...

  Life is so fast. Everything passes by so quickly. Minutes turn into hours, as hours into days, days into weeks and months, and months into years. How time passes so quick and it is as you read my thoughts right now. It does not stop for anyone and since we are all in this passage of time, in the journey, we do want to make the best of this journey. Ultimately this turns into which we call as a doing too many things and making the best of time. Too many things is what our days also demand. We are in a rat race every morning. Human beings have brought it on them and the generations to come are learning and role modelling that, in particular, more and more from their parents.  Too many things clogs the mind. Being busy makes it harder to take a step back, and think of what we have achieved, gathered, and how we have grown over time. Self reflection is an important aspect of our life, as much as it is to learn, grow and move on. As stated in the famous book 'The monk who sold hi...

 Are you relevant to the current times? Keeping pace with the tide is vital to be relevant. Relevance is doing what keeps you up in your game of life. What does it take to stay relevant in today's world? I asked many of my friends and colleagues, what does it mean for you to stay relevant and what do you need to do to stay relevant? Since I am in the training and coaching field, I got answers from individuals of the same cohort. They stated that for them relevance means know what is latest in your area of expertise, gaining mastery over skills and behaviours of your type of job. For being relevant, usually we upgrade our knowledge, learn new skills and inculcate behaviours which clearly push your growth trajectory.  But staying relevant also means shedding old notions, letting go off what does not work for you anymore. Staying relevant means making way for the new, giving up unhealthy and unresourceful ideas and beliefs. Like a snake sheds his skin, and birds shed their old fe...