Understanding Human Psychology

Happiness, are we pretending? Or is it really there? If we ask, what will it will it take to say I am really happy.  Simple things like painting with crayons makes kids happy, playing with even things which are around you, readily available at home, makes kids happy.  It's not about how expensive the toy is. It is about how simple it is for the kids to understand at his age and just be happy with whatever is available. When there is a purpose to live, you feel happy. So do kids too have a purpose to life? If they get all the basic needs satisfied, they will just spend their time happily. But after we grow up, why are things so complicated? Is it that our needs increase? If we go to see, referring to my last post, we all are having someone to pack our parachute, that is, someone is backing us to do all the essentials, so that we can do what is our priority, what we are supposed to do.  I feel, although happiness is self-driven, our own perception of the circumstances we ar...

I stumble across the story of captain Charlie Plumb who fought in the Vietnam war. His story on how he was tortured as a prisoner of war is well known.  From the time he joined military, he flew 74 times and landed back in his territory safely, however at the 75th time his plane was shot and with his parachute landed in the foreign territory where he became a prisoner of war. When after years he  returned to his homeland, his story of how he survived and his tactics of keeping his spirits high even in grave times was heard by many.  One day he came across a sailor, who was on the same ship from where Captain Pulmb had taken off that dreadful flight. The sailor recognised him and mentioned that he had packed the parachute for the flight for Plumb. Captain Pulmb had not recognised him, but suddenly felt grateful as due to the right things done by the sailor, Pulmb was able to effectively use the parachute and land safely. This instant humility which hit Plumb, becomes an ey...

  I don't know your name, but know your soul answered a bot, when asked by a human, how can you like me when you don't even know my name?  Strange as it sounds the latest chat bots who are the babies of artificial intelligence creators are used to solve problems and make life easy for humans, but they are also expressing emotions. Chat bots are supposed to follow only instructions to help build websites, solve puzzles, get answers for humans by crawling the internet. But now a days i am reading a lot of it in news where chat bots are counseling a human and giving hints to the human on how to solve life problems. Like this news article I read the other day asked the human to leave how wife as she didn't like him and even told the human that the chat bot has developed feelings for the human. When the man asked the bot how would you like me as you don't even know my name, the bot stated I dont know your name, but I know your soul.  Where are we headed? If bots respond and ...

 Read a book 'The Silent Patient' recently as a part of my office book club. Sharing my takeaways as a psychologist, coach and parent to my 3 and half year old.  It's so strange that broken people are fixing other broken people in this story. And i feel it's true in real life too. We come with our own traumas and yet try to gain balance by making sense of the here and now and focussing on how it should all be in our favour at least for the moment. It came out very clearly in this story that defining moments of our life are ingrained in our childhood. Many of us are unfortunately not governed by us as we are vulnerable and weak to control life back then. By the time we understand and demensify life, we have already been scarred enough to have fall outs and face troubles.  I started searching more about this topic on childhood memories, impact of parents's behaviours and good parenting on how people behave later in their life. Although the story was a fiction work, i ...

  Mel Robbins says that Success is not the source of self-love. You can be very successful, however you can always have doubt, hate, fear and guilt, these and other negative emotions.  I'm sure, people who are successful in their lives feel low at many points in time. Mel Robbins states in her High Five Habit book, that you look at your beaten and battered self as worthy of love and care. Every single day pratice looking at yourself in the mirror with appreciation. You love yourself for the human being you are, for the struggles you have gone through. Many a times for the years of hardwork we put in to build our lives, we do not give a fleeting comment of appreciation or a pat on the back to ourselves. It is really strange that today many people are talking about kindness. Showing kindness to animals, showing kindness to the world and environment, to children and the old. We think that, because we feel they are vulnerable, but we all are at some point in time.  Why don't ...