Understanding Human Psychology

  It all began with one person asking, “What can I do to increase my visibility in the organisation and get promoted?” Then another spoke to me about the challenging team dynamics he was facing. One by one, different voices shared their concerns — shifting topics, new stories, same space. And I remained. Holding space. Listening with presence. Gently nudging them to think for themselves. This was back in 2021 — the year I first discovered coaching. Eager to deepen my understanding of human behaviour, I also began studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Fast forward to 2024, shortly after completing my PhD, the ever-curious learner in me whispered, “It’s time to start your ICF credentialing journey.” I felt a strong pull to not just practice coaching, but truly understand the process, the structure, and the deeper essence of it. Being a coach within my organisation gave me a rich space to apply what I was learning. I chose Erickson - Xmonks for my ACC journey — and what a choice it w...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.   Recently, in my readings, I came across a thought that struck me deeply:   Most human problems, and even unfulfilled aspirations, exist because we simply wait. We wait endlessly — for the right time, the right mood, the perfect plan, the perfect clarity.   Sometimes it’s procrastination.   Sometimes it’s fear of the unknown.   Sometimes it’s sheer lethargy or a sense of boredom.   Sometimes it’s confusion about where to even begin.   And without realizing it, life passes in the waiting. If only we could move past these invisible barriers and act, most of our goals would be within reach.   Sounds simple, doesn’t it?   But if it were, everyone would already be living the life they dream of. Taking action is easier said than done because action demands courage.   Courage to move d...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I recently came across a line in 'The Almanack of Naval Ravikant' that stayed with me:   Wisdom is not about words or writing. Wisdom is about actions and behavior. If it were just about words, we would all be wise.   We read quotes, books, articles — we are surrounded by knowledge.   But true wisdom is not what you can repeat.   It’s what you embody.   It’s visible in how you live your life when no one is watching. This made me pause.   How often do we confuse knowing something with living it?   It’s easy to talk about patience, but can we stay calm when things don’t go our way?   It’s easy to talk about kindness, but do we practice it when someone is rude to us?   It’s easy to talk about balance, but do we truly create space for it in our day? Wisdom, I realized, is silent. ...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Lately, I’ve been reading more about multitasking — and honestly, it’s surprising how much of what we’ve been told about it is wrong. For the longest time, people said multitasking was the secret to managing time better. Do two things at once — save time! they said. But research and real-life experiences now tell a different story:   Multitasking doesn’t save time. It doesn’t reduce stress.   It actually drains you faster, increases mistakes, and leaves you mentally scattered. Think about it like this:   Imagine trying to fill three cups with water at the same time — one hand on each jug.   What happens?   You spill water, none of the cups get filled properly, and you feel rushed and clumsy.   But if you pour water into one cup fully, then move to the next, and then the next, you’ll fill all three faster — with le...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Being open to feedback and coaching isn’t just about listening—it’s about embracing vulnerability and being willing to grow. A truly coachable person doesn’t just nod along when engaging in conversations, but openly shares their real self, even while receiving feedback, they actively seek it, question it, and appy it.   Many people think they are open to feedback until they hear something they don’t agree with. That’s where the real challenge begins. Can you sit with it instead of rejecting it outright? Can you take a step back and ask, Why does this feedback not sit well with me? Sometimes, what we resist the most is what we need to hear the most.   Coachable individuals don’t just accept everything blindly—they ask questions. They clarify, they reflect, and they find value even in feedback they don’t fully agree with. If you immediately dismiss feedba...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. When someone tells me “you can’t do it,” something stirs deep inside me. I don’t take it as a defeat.   I take it as a challenge.   Almost like a silent voice within says, “Watch me.” But as I reflected more, I realized — what is the inner message behind such a statement?   Maybe it's not really about me.   Maybe it’s about someone else’s fear, their limited view, or their need to control.   This thought became even deeper during a recent coaching conversation.   One of my coachees shared something that really stayed with me. They said, “I grew up doing everything the way authority figures told me to. I would please everyone, seeking validation constantly. It’s so deeply rooted in me that even today, I can't do anything without needing someone’s approval. If I don't get it, I feel anxious.” Hearing them say that, ...

  Today, I want to share a little story about my child and how I’m seeing her grow up in the most beautiful way. Recently, I’ve noticed how curious she has become. She asks so many questions — “What is this?”, “What are you doing?”, “What is happening?” Her questions come from a place of pure curiosity, wanting to understand everything around her. When she’s playing and building her own little stories, she often asks, “What is the character feeling?” If she’s watching a movie, she notices the emotions too. She’ll say, “Why is this person sad?” or “Did she feel bad when that happened?” She talks about emotions — happiness, sadness, excitement — with such innocence and clarity. What amazes me even more is how she connects emotions with behaviors. She notices things adults do — in the kitchen, outside, or even while handling something risky — and asks about them too. It’s a reminder of how children grow: through constant engagement, through questions, through wonder. Watching her make...

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Coaching isn’t just a separate activity that leaders do occasionally—it’s an essential part of leadership itself. Many leaders see coaching as a structured process, something that happens in scheduled sessions. But in reality, coaching is a skill that should be used daily, just like decision-making or communication. Most of the leaders in my organisation, have coachees assigned to them, have regular interactions and coaching connects with them. Glad that my organisation is encouraging this. #ZS Great leaders don’t just check in on their teams to discuss tasks and deadlines; they engage in meaningful coaching conversations. These conversations go beyond work updates—they help employees grow, improve, and feel truly supported. Coaching is about guiding people to find their own solutions rather than just handing them answers.   One of the most valuable aspects of c...