Coaching Through the Client’s Lens

 

Coaching is not about giving solutions; it’s about entering the client’s world and seeing it through their eyes. One of the simplest, most beautiful ways to do this is through metaphors.

In a recent coaching session, I was using the Wheel of Life tool and asked the coachee, “Which area of your life, if improved, would create a ripple effect on all the others?”

He paused, thought for a moment, and then said, “If I get this one area sorted, it’s like a key piece of my Tetris. When that piece falls into place, everything else starts aligning.”

That Tetris metaphor wasn’t just a casual line—it was a doorway. For the rest of the session, I used his metaphor: “So what’s blocking that piece?” “What would it feel like when it fits?” “What’s your next move in this game?”

The energy shifted. He was more engaged, more reflective, and felt seen. That’s the power of using their language, their imagery.

Metaphors aren’t decorative—they’re deeply personal. When a client shares one, it’s an invitation to their inner world. When we pick up on it and use it gently, we meet them where they are.

In your next conversation, listen for a metaphor. Can you use it to deepen the dialogue?

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